Have you heard my theory on the 'comfort zone'?
In a nutshell, my theory is that we all need a comfort zone to be our best selves. We need a space where we can restore, nurture and revitalise ourselves so we can spring into action.
This space can be physical, but most importantly we must have a mental space where we can pause for a moment, take a breath, refocus on our desired outcome then launch ourselves knowing we are ready, and in control of our choices and destiny.
You may or may not know I am a serious 'wanna-be' gardener, my garden is my joy and refuge, a place where I can delight in the tiniest tip of a new bud through to working out my frustration digging in a new garden bed. Gardens are my comfort zone, where I slow down and get to breathe deeply. Where I can weed out stuff that no longer serves me, and sow thoughts and seeds to harvest later.
When I'm in my garden everything feels 'right.
For my partner, the golf course is his comfort zone.
My youngest son, water is his ok space.
Do you have a comfort zone? What space let's you feel your most 'you'?
As much as I love my garden, it's not realistic to live there. I can do myself and my family a whole lot of good if I take time out everyday in the garden, but not so good if I stay out there too long. Nothing else gets done, as the esteemed psychologist Carol Dweck said,
"Growth and comfort do not coexist."
Just as my garden is a haven for my regeneration and re-calibration, growth lies in stepping out into the garden of life, ready to face its challenges with resilience and grace.
So while I strongly encourage everyone to find a physical space that brings comfort and calm, and mental space that provides sanctuary from the stresses of life,
I don't encourage taking up residence.
The essence of my Comfort Zone Theory is that we all need our safe spaces to recover and enrich ourselves so we can burst into action with renewed energy and purpose.
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